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quackademic<p>The lives of unpaid carers are exhausting &amp; their work deserves Huge respect. Watching a loved one decline like this is endless grief.</p><p>But…. </p><p>The tone of this piece &amp; others like it is another version of the myth of the ‘good woman’ (even tho some carers are men) - the idea that the ‘right’ way to think about dementia is that the person suffering is a paragon &amp; the adoring carer will sacrifice their own health &amp; well being for as long as it takes.</p><p>I wonder whose voices are silenced by this.</p><p>What about the people who are bound by circumstance caring for someone who for years has been their abuser? People entrapped in a relationship of coercive control learn they cannot trust their own feelings or judgment, that their worth lies only in serving their abuser &amp; that they are not entitled to be safe. The idea of standing up to a partner who does not want to go into care is unthinkable. Facing their anger is too frightening.</p><p>The framing used in pieces like this is another rope binding such people into their learned certainty that ‘if I wasn’t such a failure as a person I could do this’. Looking from this place, for some the only escape that feels possible is their own death.</p><p>For all the respect I offer to carers like those in this article, it is the experience of people whose voices are made inadmissible by the framing used here, that breaks my heart 💔</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/AgedCare" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AgedCare</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/Dementia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Dementia</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> </p><p>‘I could never, ever not care for her’: how do carers know when to stop caring for those they love? <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/may/03/i-could-never-ever-not-care-for-her-how-do-carers-know-when-to-stop-caring-for-those-they-love?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">theguardian.com/society/2025/m</span><span class="invisible">ay/03/i-could-never-ever-not-care-for-her-how-do-carers-know-when-to-stop-caring-for-those-they-love?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other</span></a></p>
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)<p><a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/CW" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CW</span></a>: talk of abuse, control, and food.</p><p>This morning at breakfast my partner apologized for leaving the heel* of the bread loaf for me, and I was reminded of how much my ex used to control my eating.</p><p>*there was another loaf thawing, so I could have easily eaten that instead of the heel.</p><p>I used to get a "talking-to" for:<br>- eating the last of anything my ex might want.<br>- not eating the last of anything my ex didn't want.<br>- asking for things I wanted (like Swiss cheese**).<br>- cooking something for myself that they liked.<br>- cooking something for myself they didn't like.<br>- not cooking things just the way they liked.<br>- eating "too much".<br>- being "too thin".</p><p>**earlier in my relationship with my current partner, while we were at the grocery store, they asked if there was any cheese I wanted. I said "I like Swiss" as I broke down crying, following up with "but I'm not really allowed to get it".</p><p>My current partner is amazing, and my ex is my ex for a lot of good reasons, and I'm happy-sad crying a bit this morning, and I just want anyone who this list resonates with to know they aren't alone—that's abuse, plain and simple—and you can get out too.</p><p>Here's some info on coercive control (just ignore the ad for BetterHelp, because fuck them):</p><p><a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/coercive-control" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">psychcentral.com/health/coerci</span><span class="invisible">ve-control</span></a></p><p><a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Abuse</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/AbuseSurvivors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AbuseSurvivors</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/EatingDisorders" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>EatingDisorders</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/MentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MentalHealth</span></a></p>
quackademic<p><a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> is a useful concept for making visible the abuses of <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/power" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>power</span></a> that can occur in hierarchical relationships. </p><p>We now see them more easily in <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/families" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>families</span></a>, <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/cults" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cults</span></a> &amp; other institutions. Perhaps our next step is to see how people raised in relations of hierarchy learn that the only way to be safe is to either become the biggest <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/bully" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bully</span></a> in the room or to appease that bully. </p><p>So many of the people who achieve power in our <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/political" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>political</span></a> &amp; other institutions appear to operate like this. While bullying behaviour is seen as normal, or even valorised as a characteristic of alpha masculinity, our cultural framing rules (what we’re allowed to say) &amp; feeling rules (what we’re allowed to feel) obscure it from view. The consequences of a bully’s actions are seen as resulting from the personal failings of those who are harmed. Naming this dynamic becomes a dangerous act.</p><p>Sound familiar?</p><p>What if our culture‘s assumed hierarchy of human value is mistaken? What if this way of making sense of the world harms us more than it protects? What if we are all connected &amp; our wellbeing depends on the wellbeing of others?</p><p>When bullies win, everyone loses. I say yay to every way we make this visible.</p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-12/coercive-control-religion-geelong-revival-centre/105146234?utm_source=abc_news_app&amp;utm_medium=content_shared&amp;utm_campaign=abc_news_app&amp;utm_content=other" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">abc.net.au/news/2025-04-12/coe</span><span class="invisible">rcive-control-religion-geelong-revival-centre/105146234?utm_source=abc_news_app&amp;utm_medium=content_shared&amp;utm_campaign=abc_news_app&amp;utm_content=other</span></a></p>
quackademic<p>This is simple bully tactics. Lead with ‘I have power now &amp; I can hurt you’. Follow with ‘if you are nice to me I’ll only hurt you a bit. Anyone who resists with be punished’. Everyone is cowed &amp; falls in line. There must always be a scapegoat to be an example to others, everyone knows that any day it could be them.</p><p>The dynamic is so familiar to anyone who experienced bullying in school. I wonder if this is how the sad man who is driving this was parented? He has clearly learned that being the one running the protection racket is the only way to be safe.</p><p>Our cultural acceptance &amp; normalising of <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/bullying" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bullying</span></a> &amp; <a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> in families, schools, relationships, business &amp; governance enables these abuses.</p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-09/china-announces-84-per-cent-tariff-on-us-goods/105158558?utm_source=abc_news_app&amp;utm_medium=content_shared&amp;utm_campaign=abc_news_app&amp;utm_content=other" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">abc.net.au/news/2025-04-09/chi</span><span class="invisible">na-announces-84-per-cent-tariff-on-us-goods/105158558?utm_source=abc_news_app&amp;utm_medium=content_shared&amp;utm_campaign=abc_news_app&amp;utm_content=other</span></a></p>
quackademic<p><a href="https://mastodon.au/tags/Coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Coercivecontrol</span></a>: however accurately we may recognise it in others’ situations, when we live through the slow change from love bombing to control &amp; abuse it is hard to recognise it in our own. ‘How could I let this happen?’ Denial &amp; shame are enablers.</p><p>Case study.</p><p>I am an anti-domestic abuse advocate – but I failed to recognise it happening to me and my family <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/mar/13/i-am-an-anti-domestic-abuse-advocate-but-i-failed-to-recognise-it-happening-to-me-and-my-family?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">theguardian.com/society/2025/m</span><span class="invisible">ar/13/i-am-an-anti-domestic-abuse-advocate-but-i-failed-to-recognise-it-happening-to-me-and-my-family?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other</span></a></p>
Maggie Maybe<p>This is about coercive control in relationships but this part made me think about Gaza.</p><p><a href="https://open.substack.com/pub/dremmakatz/p/shes-not-innocent-either-actually" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">open.substack.com/pub/dremmaka</span><span class="invisible">tz/p/shes-not-innocent-either-actually</span></a></p><p><a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>abuse</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/rapeculture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>rapeculture</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>coercivecontrol</span></a></p>
Caterine Vauban<p>Now I can see that he knew that I was ambitious and excited about degrees and careers and volunteer work and language learning and physical fitness and healthy eating and gatherings with friends. But I didn't know that he wasn't.</p><p>He knew that he lacked any and all confidence; that he was deliberately cruel to me so that I wouldn't excel, while I blindly believed that he'd come with me into a bright future.</p><p>Eventually I got tired of his cowardice and left. </p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/PsychologicalAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PsychologicalAbuse</span></a></p>
Chery (Great Australian Pods)<p>Reach Out Speak Up </p><p>Great Australian Pods Podcast Directory: <a href="https://www.greataustralianpods.com/reach-out-speak-up/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">greataustralianpods.com/reach-</span><span class="invisible">out-speak-up/</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/GreatAusPods" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GreatAusPods</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/AusPods" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AusPods</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Podcast" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Podcast</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Podcasts" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Podcasts</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Podcasting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Podcasting</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Podcasters" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Podcasters</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Australia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Australia</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Society" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Society</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Culture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Culture</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Law" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Law</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/MentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MentalHealth</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/WellBeing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>WellBeing</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/PersonalStories" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PersonalStories</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Canberra" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Canberra</span></a></p>
Radical Anthropology<p>Social workers get 1 hour total on their courses on <a href="https://c.im/tags/coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>coercivecontrol</span></a> and <a href="https://c.im/tags/genderbased" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>genderbased</span></a> violence!</p><p>'After five years in the job, social worker Cintia estimates about 90% of her caseload is linked to psychological and controlling abuse, yet her university course barely mentioned it.'</p><p>My recent experience of being violently attacked occurred when I came across gender-based, coercive control between my close neighbour and her violent partner. So this strikes home!</p><p><a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn4970jdgq7o" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn4970</span><span class="invisible">jdgq7o</span></a></p>
Hannu Ikonen, MD<p>It's called coercive control, and if lead investigators at research universities dont like how it applies to their treatment of graduate students and post-graduate candidates, they should take a good long look in the mirror to see if their conduct perpetuates a system that violates Title IX implicitly and borders on violating the 14th Amendment.</p><p><a href="https://med-mastodon.com/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://med-mastodon.com/tags/GraduateStudent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GraduateStudent</span></a> <a href="https://med-mastodon.com/tags/WorkplaceBullying" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>WorkplaceBullying</span></a> <a href="https://med-mastodon.com/tags/UncompensatedLabor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>UncompensatedLabor</span></a></p>
Janice Selbie<p><a href="https://mas.to/tags/cult" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cult</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>coercivecontrol</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/brainwashing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>brainwashing</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/indoctrination" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>indoctrination</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/psychology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>psychology</span></a> Please read EXCLUSIVE: My life in a secretive religious sect and how I escaped from the whisky drinking multi-millionaire leader who claims he's the Holy Spirit, banned me from my family and said I was possessed by Satan <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12560391/amp/My-life-secretive-religious-sect-escaped-whisky-drinking-multi-millionaire-leader-claims-hes-Holy-Spirit-banned-family-said-possessed-Satan.html?ito=smartnews" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1</span><span class="invisible">2560391/amp/My-life-secretive-religious-sect-escaped-whisky-drinking-multi-millionaire-leader-claims-hes-Holy-Spirit-banned-family-said-possessed-Satan.html?ito=smartnews</span></a></p>
Mx. Luna Corbden<p>This Freeguard uses a technique that my abuser used but my cult didn’t, at least not this directed. It’s an intense repetitive campaign to wear you down. Either in the moment where they berate you hard or run you in circles until you’re emotionally spent, or over months, where they keep pressuring you about a thing they want, even in funny/friendly ways, and other ways, but in the end you’re exhausted and can’t think anymore and you give in.</p><p>(This is why I agreed to the dog he wanted, so he’d let up about the baby he wanted.)</p><p>Freeguard uses the phone for instance to harass a family until they gave in, as part of a larger scheme.</p><p><a href="https://defcon.social/tags/Cults" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Cults</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/MindControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MindControl</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/AbuseCulture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AbuseCulture</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/exmo" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>exmo</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/exmormon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>exmormon</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/TV" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TV</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/Netflix" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Netflix</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/NarcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NarcissisticAbuse</span></a></p>
Mx. Luna Corbden<p>I’m watching the Netflix docuseries The Puppet Master about a con artist in the UK.</p><p>What’s standing out to me most, and it resonates with my personal experiences both in a cult and under the influence of a manipulative abuser: they have this way of making ridiculous things make perfect sense.</p><p><a href="https://defcon.social/tags/Cults" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Cults</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/MindControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MindControl</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/AbuseCulture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AbuseCulture</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/exmo" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>exmo</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/exmormon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>exmormon</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/TV" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TV</span></a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/Netflix" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Netflix</span></a></p>
Janice Selbie<p><a href="https://mas.to/tags/religioustrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>religioustrauma</span></a> is like chewing gum: Sticky, messy, &amp; hard to remove. It is pervasive, impacting:<br>-thoughts<br>-speech<br>-appearance<br>-behaviour<br>-finances<br>-career<br>-relationships<br>-time<br>-energy<br>-mental health, and more.<br>Every religion has the potential to cause <a href="https://mas.to/tags/religioustraumasyndrome" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>religioustraumasyndrome</span></a>. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/psychology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>psychology</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/cults" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cults</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>coercivecontrol</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>abuse</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/exchristian" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>exchristian</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/atheist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>atheist</span></a></p>
Janice Selbie<p><a href="https://mas.to/tags/religions" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>religions</span></a> &amp; <a href="https://mas.to/tags/cults" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cults</span></a> employ coercion to gain converts. Don’t miss this session from CORT2022 by <a href="https://mas.to/tags/coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>coercivecontrol</span></a> expert Jennifer French <a href="https://youtu.be/dVbK9-mIeqU" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">youtu.be/dVbK9-mIeqU</span><span class="invisible"></span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ReligiousTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ReligiousTrauma</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/criticalthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>criticalthinking</span></a></p>
Dr Tess Machling<p>There will be a nationwide UK Emergency Alert sent to all phones on Sunday 23rd April.</p><p>For many who have secret mobile phones - think domestic violence, abuse etc - this could be lethal.</p><p>Advice about what these alerts are and how to disable them can be found here: <br> <a href="https://excelattheoffice.com/2023/04/01/how-to-turn-off-uk-government-emergency-alerts/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">excelattheoffice.com/2023/04/0</span><span class="invisible">1/how-to-turn-off-uk-government-emergency-alerts/</span></a></p><p><a href="https://mastodonapp.uk/tags/EmergencyAlert" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>EmergencyAlert</span></a> <a href="https://mastodonapp.uk/tags/DomesticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>DomesticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://mastodonapp.uk/tags/DomesticViolence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>DomesticViolence</span></a> <a href="https://mastodonapp.uk/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a></p>
Anna<p>Short version of <a href="https://aus.social/tags/crowdfunding" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>crowdfunding</span></a> post. Please <a href="https://aus.social/tags/boost" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>boost</span></a>!</p><p>👋🏻 👋🏻👋🏻<br>I need <a href="https://aus.social/tags/help" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>help</span></a> escaping an <a href="https://aus.social/tags/abusive" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>abusive</span></a> environment.<br>Government services aren’t sufficient and neither is my meagre income. I‘m <a href="https://aus.social/tags/disabled" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>disabled</span></a> by severe <a href="https://aus.social/tags/ChronicIllness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ChronicIllness</span></a> which makes it even harder. I can’t do this alone. <br>Any help is appreciated. After the past 2 weeks…it’s becoming unbearable.</p><p>If you can help: <br><a href="https://www.buymeacoffee.com/halcionandon" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">buymeacoffee.com/halcionandon</span><span class="invisible"></span></a><br>or<br>Australians can save me fees (I get 100% of your donation) by using for free:<br><a href="https://www.beem.com.au" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">beem.com.au</span><span class="invisible"></span></a> <br>Username: <span class="h-card"><a href="https://aus.social/@halcionandon" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>halcionandon</span></a></span></p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/Boost" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Boost</span></a> please!</p><p>Long version with more details: <a href="https://aus.social/@halcionandon/109322206417308941" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">aus.social/@halcionandon/10932</span><span class="invisible">2206417308941</span></a><br>You can also check my Masto &amp; Twitter feeds for details of what’s been going on.</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/mutualaid" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>mutualaid</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/neisvoid" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>neisvoid</span></a></span> <br><a href="https://aus.social/tags/MutualAidRequest" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MutualAidRequest</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/MutualAid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MutualAid</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/DisabilityCrowdfund" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>DisabilityCrowdfund</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/SevereME" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SevereME</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/pwME" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>pwME</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/MECFS" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MECFS</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/LongCovid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LongCovid</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Covid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Covid</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/NEISvoid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NEISvoid</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/ChronicPain" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ChronicPain</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Migraine" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Migraine</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Spoonie" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Spoonie</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a></p>
Drew Crecente (they/them)<p>📚 Interparental Coercive Control and Child and Family Outcomes: A Systematic Review.</p><p>The ongoing dangers of coercive control:</p><p>“CC [coercive control] was associated with increased parental psychopathology, poorer family functioning, harsher parenting and higher levels of child abuse, strained parent-child relationships, children used as tools and co-victims of CC, increased risk of child internalizing and externalizing problems, limited socializing opportunities, increased bullying, poorer perinatal outcomes, limited access to healthcare, and increased risk of child mortality. Evidence identified CC as a unique contributor to adverse child wellbeing outcomes, independent of exposure to IPV more broadly.” </p><p>🌐 <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36573654/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/365736</span><span class="invisible">54/</span></a> (Abstract only; paywalled research.)</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/sociology" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>sociology</span></a></span> <a href="https://games.ngo/tags/PublicHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PublicHealth</span></a> <a href="https://games.ngo/tags/Prevention" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Prevention</span></a> <a href="https://games.ngo/tags/ACEs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ACEs</span></a> <a href="https://games.ngo/tags/IPV" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>IPV</span></a> <a href="https://games.ngo/tags/Trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trauma</span></a> <a href="https://games.ngo/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a></p>
Anna<p>I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m scared of everything. I‘ve got so much <a href="https://aus.social/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> from <a href="https://aus.social/tags/doctors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>doctors</span></a>. I’m scared my <a href="https://aus.social/tags/GP" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GP</span></a> will yell at me today and I won’t get a chance to get my treatment, scripts, go though very bad bloodwork and figure out what to or follow up referrals. My immune system is really screwed. I really need my IV. He’s dragging his heels. He yelled at me a few days after my mother had a stroke. That’s why I need to record this guy. How can I do this all in 10 minutes? The clinic won’t even let me email them to pass anything on in preparation. They denied it for 8 months but finally admitted it. I can’t go anywhere else because don’t have the energy. I’ve got no support. I ask one <a href="https://aus.social/tags/disability" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>disability</span></a> advocate to help they say they don’t do that and pass me on to another one that sends me back. Don’t know what to do. Hospital doesn’t help. What the hell do I do? I’m not asking a lot. I just want treatment and people who should be helping me to stop treating me like shit.</p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/SevereME" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SevereME</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/ChronicIlness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ChronicIlness</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/LongCovid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LongCovid</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/PwME" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PwME</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/MECFS" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MECFS</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/NEISvoid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NEISvoid</span></a> <br><a href="https://aus.social/tags/CoerciveControl" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CoerciveControl</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Abuse</span></a> coming from everywhere.<br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/mecfs" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>mecfs</span></a></span></p>
Janice Selbie<p><a href="https://mas.to/tags/cults" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cults</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/CultHopping" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CultHopping</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ReligiousTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ReligiousTrauma</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/coercivecontrol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>coercivecontrol</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/BITEModel" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>BITEModel</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/CriticalThinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CriticalThinking</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/therapist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>therapist</span></a> If you grew up in a fundy family, you were primed to feel comfortable in high-demand, coercive groups/religions/cults/relationships. Before joining yet another group with the same dynamics, measure it against the BITE Model: <a href="https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/?fbclid=IwAR1hVf12wVANS8FBNpHyuzUMFoINrzyZP3SySZk5GQ3qqEbdMADh1mtvj1U" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-co</span><span class="invisible">ntrol/bite-model/?fbclid=IwAR1hVf12wVANS8FBNpHyuzUMFoINrzyZP3SySZk5GQ3qqEbdMADh1mtvj1U</span></a></p>