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PSA: when someone passes on you, please be gracious.

I had to pass on three people recently. Two of them were gracious about it. The third, however.

:headache:

Here is the message I sent them:

"Thank you, [name]

Ngl, you are pretty. However, and this has to do with my own issues, I'm not seeing match. I'm very sorry, and wish you the best of luck."

They came back with:

"You’re a non-binary pansexual and I’m objectively attractive. What the actual fuck."

Wow! I don't know if they thought there would be a discussion. I just blocked them.

Let's break this down:

1. First of all, this behavior proves that I was right to pass on them. Oh, you're in a hole? Grab a shovel and dig deeper, why don't you? :headache:

2. Attraction is far from being the be all and end all of matching. I saw stuff in their profile that made me pause.

3. Yes. I'm non-binary. Yes. I'm pansexual. It does **NOT** mean that a) I want to get it on with everyone under the sun and b) that, even if we are hot for each other, that we are a good match. This response reeks of entitlement.

#heterosexuals use #mind #control to recruit their #children

how do they #scare #people #straight? #threaten #rejection from #family and #society, justify #hate in the name of #god, spread #myths about #perverts and #molesters, incite fear about #disease, spread #lies about #human #sexuality, threaten rejection from #work and #community, propagate lies about #sin, #publically #humiliate #queers, withhold #information about #sex, erase queers from #history, allow #homophobia on #television...

Reviewer #1: "The publication records of the applicant do not support the ability of the PI to conduct ground-breaking research. I was not convinced that there is sufficient evidence of creative and original thinking by the applicant, and that the Pi has the required scientific expertise and capacity to successfully execute the project."

All other 4 reviewers saw that I had good enough CV for the project... what an ass.

A quotation from John Adams

The desire of the esteem of others is as real a want of nature as hunger — and the neglect and contempt of the world as severe a pain as the gout or stone.

John Adams (1735-1826) American lawyer, Founding Father, statesman, US President (1797-1801)
Essay (1790), “Discourses on Davila: A Series of Papers on Political History,” No. 4, Gazette of the United States

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/adams-john/9544/

“UK has kindly decided not to accept the refugees it helped to create”

by Laura And Normal Island News on Substack

@UKLabour

“The British government has decided it does not want to accept Palestinian refugees, but it’s quite happy to supply Israel with the weapons that create them. I mean it’s not reasonable for us to take responsibility for the consequences of our actions…”

open.substack.com/pub/normalis

Normal Island News · UK has kindly decided not to accept the refugees it helped to createBy Laura
#Press#UK#Palestine
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It wasn’t supposed to be a big deal, just a ho-hum announcement of something not happening. Instead the greatest salesperson of the era, whose customer obsession had made #Amazon into a #colossus…, got the greatest customer #rejection of a lifetime.

A ¼M #WashingtonPost readers canceled their subscriptions….That is ~10% of the total circulation. The speed & decisive force of the cancellations was a bit of a shock but also appropriate, said Danny Caine, author of “How to Resist Amazon & Why.”

👀And though #Vance’s journey from rural #poverty to #SiliconValley to the halls of #Congress ought to make him an adept code-switcher—a scene in the movie version of his memoir #HillbillyElegy finds him studying the right way to say the word syrup—it seems as if he’s lost the ability to #hear how he #sounds to people #outside it all. How can you put yourself in an #audience’s shoes when your #politics is rooted in a radical #rejection of #empathy itself?

Em see rup.

slate.com/culture/2024/08/jd-v

Slate · J.D. Vance Can’t Tell a Joke to Save His Life. There’s a Reason Why.By Sam Adams

Well, the AISL NSF grant I was on for evaluation of a STEM maker research project was rejected. Which is quite depressing.

At least the reviewers said that my part of the proposal was innovative, exactly how evaluation should be conducted, thorough, and a bunch of other great descriptions.

Maybe next year?

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Notably, @vitak & I will *not* be presenting a mixed-methods study of @AoIR researchers who collect digital data about people in their work to help assess the extent to which they have participated in educational activities focused on data ethics and make use of existing ethics resources (such as the AoIR ethics guidelines). #AoIR2024 #Rejection