@TudbuT @actuallyautistic
“I am sorry for hurting you by forgetting your birthday.
I know it upsets you from your family forgetting when you were a kid.
I forgot this time because I was distracted by my own events and didn’t check my paper planner like I prefer to do.
I don’t want to hurt you again in future, so I’m going to add an electronic alarm as a calendar reminder for next year.
For right now, I’d like to make you a very nice hot chocolate, if that’s alright?”
Like
1. Sorry for specifically doing XYZ.
2. It hurt you because ABC / demonstrate you understand how they feel.
3. These are the factors that influenced this outcome / I understand now what lead to this.
4. This is how I will stop this from repeating / I care about your feelings in the future.
5. This is how I will make it up to you now / I care about your feelings in this moment.
Depending who it is and how it happened, there might be emotional shorthand.
So you might not need to say each part or fully prostrate yourself for minor issues or with someone who thinks well of you.